Success doesn’t always mean physically defeating an assailant. One student told us that she’d not left her house after dark since her rape nearly ten years earlier. She’d boxed her life into a small, rigid package in an effort to keep herself safe. About a week after her Basics graduation, she called to tell us she’d had a wonderful evening out with a few girlfriends. She was thrilled to be able to do what she wanted – go where she wanted when she wanted – all with the confidence that she can defend herself if she needs to but more importantly that she can enjoy herself again.I Enrolled in Self-Defense and it Changed My Life
After seeing the Self-Defense class, I was sold. I knew I had to attend Marlborough. I wanted to be that confident, strong girl achieving the unthinkable. Last year, I finally had my chance. I enrolled in Self-Defense and it changed my life.
Over the course of fourteen weeks, I learned the fundamentals of fighting with eye jabs, groin pulls, knees, elbows, and heel palms. At my Self-Defense graduation, my “assailant” was that same towering, 6’2, 200-pound Goliath, but now I was the skinny sixteen-year-old girl. I thought back to when I first saw the class, so taken by the show of force and confidence in the tiny teenage girl. Now, receiving my diploma in front of my parents after delivering a smack down to a gigantic man, I realized I’d learned more than just a set of physical skills; I discovered within myself an inner strength and the courage to follow my intuition. Whether it’s not walking down an alley that feels wrong or choosing the right college, listening to that inner voice will guide me through life and keep me safe. Self-Defense turned out to be a very apt name for that class. Not only did I learn to defend my physical self, but to pursue and defend a stronger and deeper sense of self.
My daughter just got home from her 2nd class. She is so animated and excited about everything she is learning. She cannot stop talking about it and demonstrating for me!!!
I’m so grateful to IMPACT because my daughter is learning and practicing what to do during encounters with people she does not know (or even ones that she does know). She is learning how to assess the situation, use appropriate language (from diffusing to getting outside attention/help), and how to physically defend herself.
From a mom of a young teenage daughter…THANK YOU!!
I was tempted to just let him go. Though he was smaller than me, that old familiar “don’t piss off the guy” fear writhed in my stomach. But I decided to trust my intuition and firmly insisted we do things by the book and call the cops. He stopped trying to convince me otherwise sat in his car while I talked to the police dispatch.
In the past I would have easily let him slime out of it and I would have left myself holding the bag. But this time I didn’t let it happen. I set a boundary and did what I needed to do to take care of my own safety and the safety of my car and that felt like a good change.”
“I didn’t even know him and he was acting like we were best friends. He kept trying to put his arm around me so I used my verbal skills to tell him I wasn’t interested. I had to get louder and louder with my ‘leave me alone’ boundary but he didn’t get it. After I intercepted his hug he asked me if I was a bitch. I said ‘yes I am so leave me alone.’ Instead he tried to kiss me so I did the Shark-bite pinch to his arm. He finally backed off and asked what was wrong with me so I screamed ‘I SAID NO!’ He left the party after that and some of the other girls thanked me since he’d been bothering them too. I feel lucky to have my IMPACT training and know I won’t be a freshman year statistic. I’m ready for any creeps that come my way. I am hoping to meet a nice guy though.”
Carly’s talking about the statistic that one in four college freshman will be sexually assaulted – usually by someone she knows. Way to set a great example for your new dorm-mates, Carly! Good luck in school!
He hovered closer and closer as my friends took pictures of the stars. As he crossed the line of safe distance I turned and said loudly to my friends “hold onto your purses.” That was all it took. He knew that I knew and he backed off.
I was proud my awareness skills kept us safe but also freaked that my friends hadn’t even noticed the potential danger. They’ll be in the next Basics class!
A strangely dressed lady came up to me and said, “I have a decaf mocha frappuccino in the car, come with me and I’ll get it for ya.” Man, everything I learned at Impact was passing through my head. I said, “No, thank you” because the instructors at Impact told me not to get involved with ANYTHING where a stranger asks you to come and get something. So I said, “No, thank you.” Then she said something like, “May the devil have your soul.” I wanted to say, “Jeez, I’m not stupid enough to come to your car,” but I remembered that Impact said to let them have the last word. So I ignored her and she walked away.
That was something you always expect to happen to someone else, but apparently we’re all someone else to someone else.
The next time he knocked on her door she said “I feel used and disrespected when you borrow my car and return it with no gas in the tank. Would you please either fill it up or not borrow it again?”
He hasn’t asked for her car since and she’s subsequently found out from other neighbors that he’s admitted to seeing how much he can get out of people for free before they catch on to his game. Needless to say, that’s a game our graduate won’t be playing now that she has boundary setting skills!
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